Here we go, the second video of going through my wardrobe with Yvonne Phillips. This time we made a “private” fashion show only for you, putting a few pieces together and styling them with handbags, shoes and jewellery that we thought would “pop up” the look.
The video became too long so I made part 1 with trousers and jumpsuits and next week it will be around tops and jackets. Can’t wait to show you all.
I have been approaching this subject for a long time now. We all have a kind of responsibility of why things don’t change. I normally talk about matters related to fashion, but why are places not accessible, why is the work place not prepared, why are we ok with this exclusion, why don’t we say it is not ok?
Ok, maybe you are one of a small percentage of the population that is doing something about it, but really, most people and organisations seem not too interested. What are you doing to make a more inclusive world? What are your friends doing about it? When do you expect to see a change if everyone is conforming to the status quo?
I am thinking about these questions and realising most people want a change but they don’t want to work at it. I have this proposal for you and I hope you adopt it and I hope you pass the idea around.
The industry will move in direction that money will say. In other words money will set the direction. It means buyers and customers have the power.
Let’s think together. If in the world we are 20% of the population (disabled people), we all have to buy clothes and we all have family and friends. We know a lot of brands are doing something around inclusivity nowadays. Let’s associate with them. Let’s help them, they are doing something right and they must be rewarded for the work. Equality is a big deal, its not fair to leave people out of the party as I normally say, it is also discrimination.
If we all get together, with family, friends, carers, partners, etc, we will be a higher percentage of the world, and it has an impact. Don’t you think? Only buy from brands/ designer/ shops/ that include disabled models, curves, gender, colour, anything that has something to do with minorities and with diversity. Like this we will have more visibility, we will have a voice, and people we understand we are here.
I am working with a new designer in England and with brands that are including wheelchair influencers etc. There are plenty of them. I will mention a few of them here:
Peter Twiss, The House of Radha, Gunda, Vinette, London Organic, Fashions Finest,
Contessina London, Delphine the Label, Louise Linderoth, Kantala, Samsonite, Labels are Limitations, Nara Nubia, Femelle, Rua Luja…
Here are only a few of them. Check my Instagram SAMABULLOCK for more, you will see all of the ones I worked with, but is there many more that are working towards it: Primark, Teatum Jones, ASOS, Tommy Hilfiger, River Island… and how you see many mainstream brands are also embracing this idea.
Check, research. We can support them and they will support us. More visibility we get more power we have to change this “invisible” situation we are stuck in.
Brands know the profit in making a more equal world and empowering their customers.
Diversity is fun. We vote with our money. Let’s vote in the right way.
We all need to love and respect our bodies. In the end, it is our bodies that give us the platform to live and perform at our best in this world. A body full of energy is still one of our goals in these days of fast food, lack of sleep and not much moving around. Also, the concept that we need all be ‘the same’ as the prototype that the magazines sell “skinny, white, young” … Am I wrong? The other day I watched a video on Youtube talking about it and showing A+B that what I am saying seems to be true.
As a wheelchair user, I will tell you my experience and things I do to love not only my body but also myself. When we are disabled sometimes the lack of feeling in a limb or limbs make us ignore that part of our body.
Firstly, many times I tend to ignore my leg that I don’t feel as a result of my spinal cord injury, so what I do is I try to pay attention to it. As you probably know right now I love to have a bath every day (when its possible) and there I will massage, soap, and try somehow to interact with that leg. I also like to have a massage and I know budgets can be tight sometimes and massage is not the cheapest thing in the world, but you can offer a shared massage. You massage someone and they do it back, as a friend, a partner, your mum etc… It is also a nice way to be in contact with other people.
I know my leg is thin and it bothers me sometimes, but there nothing I can do, apart from to try to move it as much I can. I do look at myself in the mirror and I say in a loud voice, ‘I love you, I respect you and I will do all I can for you to have a good and long life. I love you! I look straight into my eyes and also at my legs, making the point that they are part of me and I love them the way they are. Another form of showing love is caring, so I try to move my legs as much as I can so they will have the amount of exercise that they need as I am always in moving but most of the time my legs are static. Cycling, swimming and yoga are activities that I can do to make sure my legs are “alive”.
It is a fact that our legs will get thin unless we move them or you have spasms etc. I always thought with me it won’t happen to me, but it did, and it will keep doing. Calcium is another important point, mainly if you are a woman and after the age of 40 let’s say calcium levels go down considerably. I have calcium supplements and Vitamin D too as London is not the sunniest city in the world. There is not often the opportunity to sunbathe. Things I do in general is to have a nightly routine, where I apply my creams, light a nice candle and burn some oil to relax and enjoy myself with a nice cup tea or occasionally a glass of wine (why not) or a drink of your preference. I also love Kombucha as you probably know too.
I like to have this 10 minutes before going to bed to “meditate” (pray) and be in contact with my inner self and I try to remember that this life, after all, is a play and we won’t be here for long. So I don’t judge myself and try to understand that everyone is on their own path trying to be happy some how. So laugh and enjoying the moment is a must do every day.
These are only a few things I do but if you like to know more about my self-care and how I build my confidence let me know in the comments and I will write another article for you.